The importance of grassroots efforts

We can improve understanding of the Jewish community among non-Jews by extending friendship to our family, friends, and colleagues.

True grassroots efforts—the act of reaching out to even one person—will provide benefits to all of us in increased support beyond the Jewish community.

We’re asking you to think about drawing nearer to non-Jewish people in your life—those you’ve encountered and are fond of—and inviting them to be closer. Make them your plus one to Jewish events you may attend, such as a community Seder. Invite them to your Shabbat table or consider putting on an event to celebrate a Jewish holiday or festival.

Please contemplate hosting only if you are calm and capable of entertaining—do not extend yourself if you are uneasy or in any way vulnerable—i.e. sad, angry, frustrated or tired.

If you’re hosting non-Jewish friends at a Shabbat dinner, be prepared to explain the blessings, the rituals, and your own household traditions. Expect to answer questions, but keep the atmosphere light, relaxed and focused on relaxing into Shabbat.

You could also host events, parties or intimate gatherings around any of the Jewish festivals—e.g. Chanukah, Purim, Passover, Rosh Hashanah etc. Explain the purpose of each holiday/holy-day and provide examples of special symbolic foods such as sufganyiot at Chanukah, kugel at Passover, the round challah of Rosh Hashanah. Nothing bonds like sharing a meal.

Guiding conversations

In guiding the conversation at your Shabbat table or over coffee with non-Jewish friends, set some simple ground rules. Sharing our traditions with others allows and encourages a diversity of viewpoints is an excellent start.

Other phrases that might come in handy are things like, “I’m a Jew, not a rabbi,” in answer to questions about religion. Consider using, “In my opinion…” or “I believe/understand/think…” as a start to your statements. Gently encourage your guests to share their opinions and questions, assuring them you will listen respectfully.

In response to queries about things that may be controversial, the truism “two Jews, three opinions” is useful to rely on. Explain that Jews are not all the same and do not share the same perspectives and that is okay. We ourselves have debates about whether we are best defined as a race, religion, culture or tribe.

If the conversation turns to the current conflict, remember to frame your response in terms of what you understand and your viewpoint. Example: “I know it is difficult to see the loss of life on both sides in this war…but I believe the only way to keep Israelis and Palestinians safe is for Hamas to leave Gaza.”

Ask your non-Jewish friends what they think, believe, and feel to give them the opportunity to share their experience and opinions. This also offers insights into their familiarity with Jews, Israel, and contemporary Canadian affairs, and how you can enhance their comprehension.

You don’t need to feign familiarity with all or concur with everything your non-Jewish friends say. Keep the conversation civil and make sure everyone feels comfortable voicing their opinions respectfully. Example: “I am not sure that what you are saying is factually true, but I also understand none of us are always right or always wrong. Do you mind if I send you some resources on the topic?”

Conclusion

There aren’t many Jews in Edmonton, and learning about different people, religions, and perspectives can be daunting at the best of times. Being more Jewish with your non-Jewish friends and inviting them one step closer to our rich culture, traditions, and values is a way to create a safe place for them to ask questions, and to learn more about us. It also allows them to understand more about how challenging this current time is for us and provides them with a chance to become our allies as we work for peace.